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The Caregiver’s Prayer

The Caregiver’s Prayer

The Caregiver’s Prayer Heavenly Father, I love _______. I have committed my life to caring for him/her, Yet I know the task is greater than my abilities. As I seek to help another, I ask for strength to shoulder the burdens before me. Yet I also ask for the wisdom to...

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Pushing back against the isolation

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Pushing back against the isolation

Pushing back against the isolation Due to Covid-19, the world discovered what caregivers already knew: isolation fosters dark thoughts that easily take us down—often quickly.  Pushing back on isolation as a caregiver, however, often requires creativity. Sometimes it...

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Over the course of my wife’s nearly thirty years as an amputee, we’ve learned amazing things about the human body, including phantom-limb pain. Amputees can often feel the pain of a limb long since removed.

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Are you a caregiver who lives in the “…wreckage of your future?”

Are you a caregiver who lives in the “…wreckage of your future?” Over the course of my wife’s nearly thirty years as an amputee, we’ve learned amazing things about the human body, including phantom-limb pain. Amputees can often feel the pain of a limb long since...

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Dear Peter: The Bible tells us honor our mother and father, but my alcoholic (and now disabled) father was physically abusive and is still verbally abusive.  David, in TX.

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Honoring My Father and Mother?

While one of ten commandments is to indeed honor your father and mother, it does mean that we must honor alcoholism, addiction, or any other type of mental impairment that leads to inappropriate acts. Sometimes honoring them means not engaging with their destructive behavior.

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When a People Groan

When a People Groan

"He will bring forth justice to the nations." Isaiah 42:1 Approaching a large man working a booth at a national religious conference some years ago, I asked him about his organization’s work. His booming voice thundered, “Apologetics!” Without so much as a “how do you...

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Dear Peter: Would you do it again?   Chip, feeling reflective

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Tempted to Speculate?

As caregivers, we struggle enough with reality, so living in the hypothetical is never recommended.  That said, I love the way I play the piano now, I love the way I write, and I am grateful for the ways I’m able to speak to fellow caregivers …

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Dear Peter: Why does she go through bouts of Mania?  Ramona, feeling overwhelmed.

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Her Mania is Making Me Crazy

Mania stems from a variety of sources.  Some psychological some physiological.  Step one is to make sure your loved one’s physician is aware of this behavior and ask for an action plan. 

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Dear Peter: How do we deal with doctors & their offices when you express what the issue is & no one responds to your concerns?  Debbie struggling with doctors.

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Lack of Response From Physician Offices

Doctors, and their offices, usually bustle and are often tied to a timer.  As caregivers, our hearts and bodies are weary, and it adds greater frustration when we feel overlooked or dismissed. Particularly if we busted our rears to take off time from work and struggle to get our loved one there on time

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Dear Peter: How do I not become so angry?  Leslie, with clenched fist.

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Struggling With Anger as a Caregiver

Sometimes anger is warranted.  If your anger is directed at an impaired loved one’s behavior, however, your anger can be futile.  How do you get angry with a disease?  In cases where your loved one is behaving poorly and even inappropriately

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Dear Peter:  How do you get the doctor (s) to really listen to my concerns?  Sherri who feels dismissed.

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When You Feel Physicians Won’t Listen To You

Dear Peter:  How do you get the doctor (s) to really listen to my concerns?  Sherri who feels dismissed. Dear Sherri: Given that changing doctors often makes more challenges, it’s usually best to try and hammer out a good working relationship with the one you have...

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Dear Peter, Is this my calling?  Theresa questioning her skill sets.

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Is Caregiving God, Fate, or Choice?

Your calling implies an authority outside yourself that speaks to your purpose.  I can’t answer whether or not God has called you to this, but you are in it, and I am convinced that you can function in this role and that God can and will continue to equip you to travel this journey. 

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He's What's Best About Americans.  Over the weekend, in Anderson South Carolina, vandals tore into a historic cemetery that belongs to Midway Presbyterian Church. Standing in this picturesque town since 1833, this cemetery connects families to multiple...

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